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Show disrespectful attitude towards parents, family and others

Challenge various requirements or rules

Just only care about yourself and cannot see things from any other point of view

When facing responsibility, you appear lazy and sloppy

Negative attitude towards life, school or people

Emotionally alienated from you

Preferring to choose friends you won't agree with

Sometimes you will get angry for no reason

Lack of motivation for academics and decline in grades

Ignore family affairs and responsibilities

The mood is unstable, but it cannot be said that the reason

Being mean to brothers, sisters or friends

Lack of interest in spiritual things

Don't want to participate in family activities, just want to be with friends

Lie, deceive the activities you participate in

Physical attacks and violence

Skip school or escape from home

Substance abuse - alcohol, drugs, pornographic publications, etc.

Have sex

Of course, this list is still long. If you come to read this book because of any of the above behaviors in your teenagers, you must have confidence that there is a solution to these problems. You don't need to be wronged, you can take some actions to make your teenager's difficult attitudes and behaviors significantly change:

#Help your teenagers fly to the future life

In the movie "Finding Nemo", the clownfish Nemo was gone before hatching. Single father Marin, with extreme caution, accompanied Nemo. Marin didn't want Nemo to touch or even get close to anything that was dangerous. He wanted to be by Nemo at all times and block all dangers for his children. However, children always grow up to want to explore the world. In a curious process of exploring the sea-surface ship, Nemo was captured by humans, and thus embarked on a series of adventures in the film. Fortunately, the final ending was the happy ending of the father and son reunion.

Malin's wish for keeping his children with him in this way and avoiding the sinisterness and temptation of letting him in contact with the world is probably the wish of most parents. But think about it, parents were once young and wanted to explore the unknowns in this world and collide with the existing system of this society. It is difficult for teenagers to use high pressure and strict rules to limit it for a long time. How parents set up appropriate boundaries under the premise of love is not only a difficult technology, but it can be said to be an art.

With his decades of tutoring experience, coupled with his own experience as a teenage father, Dr. Townsend now has to learn step by step how to get out of the fog and help his teenagers and children to move forward in the future with his parents in confusion.

Come on, set a boundary for teenagers, as long as you start, it will not be too late.

/Table of contents/

Acknowledgments 008

Sequence: Who pressed the switch 011

Part 1: Becoming a bounded parent 027

1. Return to your adolescence 028

2. Become that boundary 038

3. Connect with each other 043

4. Face your guilt and fear 051

5. Together in education 058

6. Become a consistent parent 063

7. Single Parents 069

8. Stepparents 076

Part 2: Understanding the world of teenagers 083

9. Adolescence: The final stage before adulthood 084

10. A period of great transformation 091

11. Teenagers thoughts are different from yours 097

12. Separate from parents 100

13. From a secular parent to an eternal parent 109

14. Understand the Differences between Boys and Girls 114

15. Cultural Influence 120

Part 3: Setting a Line for Your Teenagers 127

16. Understand the problems of your teenagers 128

17. Make good use of the four anchors that set boundaries 135

18. Don't go off track 145

19. Introduction to Consequences 159

Part 4: How to deal with FAQs 171

20. Academic Questions 172

21. Aggressive Behavior 178

22. Alcoholism, drug use and other addictive behaviors 186

23. Better to argue 194

24. Breaking the Agreement 201

25. Housework 206

26. Clothing 211

27. Violation of access control 217

28. Self-harm and self-harm 22329. Deception and Lie 228

30. Rebellion 234

31. Abandoning family in an unhealthy way 240

32. Inappropriate attitude 246

33. Car use 254

34. God and Faith 260

35. Ignore your parents 266

36. Impulsive Behavior 271

37. Network 277

38. Money 282

39. Moody 287

40. Party 294

41. Peer 301

42. Phone 308

43. Qiao Family 313

44. Sexual Relationship 319

45. Silence 327

Postscript 333

Appendix A: Seeking professional assistance 337

Appendix B: Guiding Principles when Overwhelmed 339

Note 342

Index 345

/Author introduction/

John Townsend is a business consultant, leadership coach, and a psychologist. He has (and co-authored) more than thirty books, with a total sales of more than tens of millions. Among them, the Boundaries series ranked among the New York Times bestsellers list.

Townsend hosts his own live online program, runs Podcast, and is also a co-host of the TV program. For more than two decades, Dr. Townsend has been in contact with leaders, organizations and individuals around the world to provide them with life-changing solutions.